Having sex for the first time can be an exciting and or frightening experience for anyone whether a male or female. Due to modern day television, many women or men know first hand what their first sexual experience may be like even years before they ever step in the bed; however, what many first-timers will realize is that your first time isn’t having sex doesn’t always include rose petals and sexually explicit music playing in the background. In fact, your first time having sex could be painful, awkward or a downright nightmare but have no fear; here are a few tips on how to have first time sex.
Sure it, I can be hard to simply relax during your first time having sex or even your first time preparing to have sex; however, that really is the best thing you can do. As a man not relaxing could impact your ability to become erect and as a woman not being relaxed can make it much painful for you when your partner inserts himself into your vagina.
- Keep Breathing
If you’re feeling nervous or anxious, deep breathing is a great technique you can use. As you take deep breaths, you will be able to let go of the distractions surrounding you. Also, focus on making yourself one with your entire sexual experience.
- Don’t Be Afraid To Say Stop
Remember, having sex even for the first time requires a level of consent. If you don’t feel comfortable proceeding in your sexual relations; don’t be afraid to tell your partner to stop. So often women end up tearing up parts of their vagina simply because they’re too afraid to let their partner know that certain things don’t feel good. Communication is always key as mentioned above and if you don’t tell your partner to stop or even when it hurts, they’ll never have any idea on how to effectively please you.
- Use Protection
Using condoms or other forms of protection are not only used to make sure you don’t get pregnant but they are also used to make sure that you don’t get sexually transmitted diseases(STDs). Using protection will not only make it slightly easier for lubrication purposes for both the man and the woman it will also actually make you and your sexual partner feel more at ease without having to worry about pregnancy or any other sexual diseases.
- You Probably Won’t Have an Orgasm
Here’s the big shocker, you probably won’t have the orgasm your first time. It’s not because you’re horrible at sex or that you don’t have what it takes to have an orgasm, in fact, it’s actually the total opposite. Most women don’t experience an orgasm during their first time because they’re not in touch enough with their body’s to know what things their body needs in order to reach that state.
- Prepare For Pain
This is one thing that many people forget to prepare for when it comes to sex and that’s pain. Sex can be painful for various reasons including a vagina being too tight, too much stress, not enough lubrication or perhaps a penis that is too big for a woman with a smaller vagina. This is one reason why in many movies women are found screaming during their first time having sex. Sure, eventually sex will make you scream in pleasure but that initial sex encounters those screams are centered more on pain than they are a pleasure.
- Foreplay (Very Important)
We know that you are eager to have sex right away and to be able to have the same great sex that you see many people on television having; however, foreplay is everything. Foreplay means a little bit of everything for everybody. In fact, the more aroused you are the more pleasurable your sexual encounter is guaranteed to be.
- Don’t Focus On Your Technique, Focus On Pleasing Your Partner (Life Changer Tip)
During your first time having sex, many people waste a large amount of time focusing more on their technique and making sure they are doing everything right. Instead of trying to perfect your technique consider instead of making sure you are doing everything right to please and appease your sexual partner.
- Your Partner May Not Meet Your Needs
Believe it or not, it doesn’t matter how much chemistry you and your partner has it is a known fact that your partner still may not meet your needs. Having great sex takes time and communication from both partners and without both of those ingredients, you can’t expect to have the best sex of your life during your first sexual encounter.
- Don’t Be Afraid To Give Feedback
If your partner is doing something to you sexually that you don’t like, don’t be afraid to say so. Sex is about having an experience and if you don’t tell your partner what you do or don’t like he or she will never know what to do in order to please you.
- Don’t Be Afraid to Use Lubrication
So often Lubrication has gotten a bad reputation from many sexually active partners simply because many people feel that if you have to use lubrication it’s because you’re not turned on enough. Using lube can actually make sex more pleasurable and using a water-based lubricant alongside with a condom will help decrease the chances of a condom tear.
- Lower Your Expectations
It may seem rude to hear someone say that you need to lower your expectations during sex but it is absolutely true. There are so many times that teen movies and television shows mislead first timers to believe that sex will be a magical experience for both parties when in fact it may be the total opposite.
At the end of the day, sex is an experience that is meant to be enjoyed by both men and women. As stressful as having sexual relations for the first time can be, do not take yourself too seriously and best of all just enjoy it. Thinking too hard will make your first time even more awkward than it already is.